Five Candles
Ladies and gentlemen and faithful readers and visitors, I’m pleased to announce that today marks the fifth anniversary of ErosBlog’s first post.
I’m rather proud to have been in continuous publication for half a decade. 1,853 posts spread over 1,825 days averages to 1.015 posts per day. Of course it wasn’t that regular — there are a couple of posting gaps that stretch close to a month in length. But a daily post has always been the goal, and if I never managed that much, I’ll settle for that 1.015 posts-per-day average.
When I started this thing, internet diaries had been around for at least as long as the web, and some of them (especially the BDSM lifestyle ones) had a lot of adult content. Blogs (known by that name, or by its then-still-in-use linguistic ancestor, “weblogs”) were a few years old, but had exploded in popularity and visibility just in the previous year. Sex blogs — as a genre — were unheard of. There was Daze Reader, there was World Sex News, there was BJ’s Gay Porno-Crazed Ramblings. There were pretty pictures every day at Sensual Liberation Army and some other places. Lots of proto-sex-blogs, but none that had adopted that characterization of themselves. So, as far as I know, Eros Blog was the first internet thing to claim that description.
I can’t claim to have invented the idea of a sex blog — whomever registered sexblog.com, before I tried to, can prove that — and I can’t claim to have invented the act of sex blogging, which was all over LiveJournal before I ever heard of blogging. But I think I was the first person, to think of it, do it, and call it by the name.
One possible exception — a sex blogger who was there before me by a few months, doing what I’d consider the first recognizable sex blog and conceptualizing her work in roughly that way, was Susannah Breslin. She did a blog called The Reverse Cowgirl, she was well connected with web heavyweights and early blogging gurus, and she blogged pretty exclusively about sex and culture. It was nice stuff, she was kind enough to link me early, but I simply cannot remember if she ever called her project a sex blog. She might have; certainly she could have, because that’s what it was.
Unfortunately it was from Susannah that I first learned to hate the destruction wrought by blog vandalism. She was linked all over the web, she was getting a lot of media attention, and then one day without a word of explanation her blog was gone and links all over the blogosphere were 404ing. Then a while later she had another project up, very artistic and overdesigned but having many bloglike features; it too vanished. After that I lost track, but there have been more; she’s got another “Reverse Cowgirl” blog going at the moment, with archives going all the way back to 2006, but not a single link to any of her earlier projects (presumably because they are all gone). I owe Susannah a considerable debt for inspiration and early traffic, but she’s also the one who taught me to be wary of folks who treat the web like a rented space for temporary performance art.
So! Five years. Two hosts. Three blog software platforms. At least half a dozen different templates. A metric buttload of spam and raging idiocy moderated out of the comments. Two web interviews, perhaps half a dozen press inquiries (ignored because I still enjoy psuedonymous posting). One hell of a lot of fun.
One of the fun things for me is to look at how my posts (and me) have changed over five years. When I started, writing about sexual stuff was very hard for me (even in my usual detached “look at those people over there and what they say they are doing” style). I was stilted and awkward. I was afraid that to write about a thing meant people would think I liked it. Worse yet, I cared about that, and would include horrid little disclaimers. Bacchus wrote about Bacchus in the third person for eight long months. I remain indebted to Eugene Volokh for providing me, a day too late, with the vocabulary word for that literary atrocity. Thanks to him, I now understand that I Am No Longer An Illeist.
As for me, when I started this blog I was single, lonely, and underemployed by my own choice due to increasing disillusionment with my profession (a little) and with the demands of the job culture (a lot). Now I’ve got The Nymph, we’re ridiculously happy together, and my adult web projects support me better than a job ever did, with me working only when it suits me. And it does suit me! I used to read in the business magazines about successful power suit types who would wake up in the morning full of enthusiasm for getting into the office to do whatever they did, and I’d boggle at that alien worldview. Now, I wake up in the morning, often as not, with an idea for tweaking or improving one of my websites, and I’m full of enthusiasm for the idea of getting up and tinkering with it. Life has never been better.
I couldn’t hope to thank properly all the other bloggers who deserve it, for providing me with support, encouragement, linkage, ideas, material, inspiration… but to list even the first fraction of them would require listing half my blog roll. All I can say is, thanks to you all. And thanks — even more thanks! — to the thousands of loyal readers who come back every day to see my blather and follow my links.
I owe special thanks to my regular guest blogger, Aphrodite, who has been backing me up and providing the woman’s touch around here for more than three years. Although her posts have never been frequent, she’s provided considerable invisible assistance, especially with comment spam filtering before we got it as automated as it tends to be today. I remain delighted and honored to have her help.
What about the future? Will there be a “Ten Candles” post on October 3, 2012?
At the speed technology, culture, and politics are changing in this crazy world, it’s hard to know for sure, but I truly do hope so! I love doing this blog and I can’t imagine stopping voluntarily. Five years ago it was still possible to claim that blogs were a fad. Five years from now, it’s possible we’ll all be considered impossibly old-fashioned, like paper magazines and network television and phones that plug into the wall. But this is about the sex, baby! And people don’t get bored with that, so I should still have an audience.
I’ll conclude with a list of some of my forgotten favorites — an even dozen sex blog posts I enjoyed writing and still enjoy reading, posts that seemed important to me, or posts that other people seemed particularly to enjoy.
- Bacchus On Porn
- Andrea Dworkin On Blowjobs
- This Is The Culture War
- Competing With Porn
- A Basic Rule For Gentlemen
- Sex And Submission
- Evil Porn Werewolf Enslavers Debunked
- Crapping All Over Beauty
- Two Smiles
- An Economist Confused About Porn
- More on NSFW
- Blogging Services Still Haven’t Stopped Sucking
Shorter URL for sharing: https://www.erosblog.com/?p=2045
Bacchus, Erosblog was the second ever blog I happened upon (after discovering you through Belle de Jour). That was over four years ago; I’m still a regular reader – and will continue to be. You have paved the way in your writing, quality content and consistent output, that others are proud to follow, myself included.
Congratulations on making the five-year anniversary, here’s to the next five.
Also, regarding blog vandalism: when I lost my anonymity, many times I held my finger over the “delete” button, wanting to get rid of my entire blog; I felt so exposed and vulnerable, being thrust into the public sphere and having everyone know whom I was. But I also kept recalling what you argued about blog deletion, and I felt that removing my blog from the net would be dishonest somehow and undermine not just my own writing, but also everyone who had linked to me. So it is, in part, down to you that my blog is still around today. Thank you.
I say THANK YOU, Bacchus. You’ve done a brilliant job and I’ve read you myself since discovering you 3 years ago. BRAVO and have another great 5 years :)
Happy-happy, baby! I’ve long appreciated your intelligent take on sex-related things, and the quality of your writing. Always good to see a decent writer succeed! And I will confess that you’ve even opened a few (sex-)conceptual doors for me, jaded old dude that I am.
Thanks, and best wishes with the rest of the run, for as long as you wanna do it.
Jim D.
Congratulations and happy birthday, Bacchus.
Thanks for fighting the good fight and fucking the good fuck and sometimes both at the same time.
kissykiss,
chelsea g
Happy Birthday Erosblog! And thank you Bacchus, Nymph, and Aphrodite for all your entertaining, educational (oh my yes), and delicious hard work!
Happy Birthday to You
May your balls not be blue
May your blog posts be hot and
May your sex life be, too :)
Bacchus,
I want to also say congrats on 5 years of blogging. I have personally been lurking around your blog for quite a while until I got inspired to throw my hat in the ring myself. Oh it is nothing as glamorous as yours but I enjoy it.
You, The Nymph (Congrats on that too!!!) and Aphrodite are wonderful and interesting writers and I look forward to 5 more years.
Found you fast with help from The Girl.
Still find you sexy in the smartest way.
Hope I’ll find your blog in the next five years.
Congrats and Thanks!
Congratulations on this wonderful anniversary.
I also am appreciative of all the work you do, and the quality of the writing is exceptional and entertaining.
Happy birthday Eros Blog!
Always enjoy visiting here because I never know what I’ll find, but I know it’ll be interesting.
Cheers, Bacchus and Aphrodite
Thanks everyone! For your support, and for the kind words.
happy Birthday, I may not always agree with everything you say, but you normally come up with something my wife and I can ruminate over. Thanks for all the posts
Congratulations and thank you. I’ve never posted a comment here as I’ve always used you as a resource as well as a source of humor and interesting tid-bits. If you are appreciated, then is it the same as just being used? Geez.. I hope so.
Keep up the good work and I’ll keep down the comments. Seems fair to me.
Mr. Upton Ogood
Happy Birthday! I’d “hold” the five candles for you but that’s stretching things a bit TOO far, even for me. ;-)
LOL! Kaya, you need smaller candles…
Bacchus, I’m blushing…..and everybody else, your thanks to me are very nice but Bacchus really deserves all the credit.
Smooches all around!
happy 5th! love the blog! you cover a hell of a lot of material and manage to keep it fresh.
Honestly? I think that this is the best blog I’ve ever been to. I check here nearly every day. I’ve never posted before, but your anniversary stirred some nostalgia in me- I remember stumbling upon this site years ago, back when there was a post about ASCII porn. Ah…good times.
So. Please, please don’t stop doing this. The world needs more level-headed people willing to talk about porn and sex.
So Thank You.
Congrats on 5 years, and thanks.
Happy birthday!
I love erosblog. I think it’s probably my favorite blog to email and message links to, just because everything is so interesting and different from the expected approach.
Five birthday smacks for you!
I agree – one of the unexpected benefits of writing a sex blog is working my way up to admitting what turns me on, more fully explore those kinky fantasies – a healthy process.
Congratulations on five years! Your gentle humor, nonjudgemental approach and wide (and I do mean wide!!!) perspectives on all matters sexual make your blog one of my favorites.
Here’s to another five years, and many more after that!
:raises a toast, and a new wreath of grape vines to Bacchus:
Happy Birthday Bacchus.
Happy birthiversary! I would have enjoyed you taking more advantage of this appropriate opportunity to expand on your autobiography… For instance I’ll bet I’m not the only one who’s curious about the nature of your previous employment and education. Perhaps it would shed some light on why you do this so well… Inquiring minds want to know!
Congrats, Bacchus. I wish you many more happy and horny years of blogging.
although i’m sorry i couldn’t arrange a more feasible business connection with erosblog when i was working at phe, i’m so glad you’re still at this sexblogging thing.
dependable, interesting and provoking without offense are a few words that describe how well you do your job.
thank you, and happy sexblog birthday!
Congratulations!! I definitely remember you being one of the first sex blogs I had read way back, and through you, found many other exciting places to visit and read. All of it led me to doing it myself as well, for close to four years now. Thank you!
Thanks again to all the well-wishers!
Libby, it was a joy to deal with you personally, even though your outfit didn’t seem to be set up to do the sort of low-friction transactions that are my bread and butter. I trust they know what they lost when they let you get away.
I wish I’d had BlogAds back then; that might have been easier for everybody.
Congratulations, Bacchus. I’ve read you pretty much since I discovered people didn’t just blog (I’d known about political blogs for a while and even had one) but blogged about sex. I’ve been reading you ever since.
If blog years are anything like the old dot com years then that should be “Congratulations Grandpa.” And no, I’m not going to Google “internet-grandpa porn.” But not because I don’t think there’d be any. :-)
Happy birthday, Bacchus,
figleaf
Congratulations on a great accomplishment, done with class and style. And thanks, too, for the obvious effort and care you put into it. ErosBlog has long been one of my very favourite blogs so as long as you keep writing, I’ll keep reading.
here’s for another five more years, and five more after that…and so on and on…tnx bacchus