Meet Dominant Women Near You
For reasons that have never been convincingly pinned down to my satisfaction, there’s a substantial imbalance in the gender distribution of dominance and submission among kinky people. As a boy, I imagined that no women would be game for some of the male-dominant, female-submissive fantasies I had. I was so wrong. Subsequently my experiences have convinced me there are actually slightly more submissive-interested women out there than there are dominant men for them, although the imbalance isn’t overwhelming. But the other way around? Dominant women willing to dominate submissive men? There aren’t near as many of those as there are submissive-interested men, which is why the dominatrix trade thrives in every city, and in many a large town too.
I’ve never seen a convincing exposition of why such a strong disparity exists, although it’s not hard to find gender-essentialist claptrap essays full of “men are naturally this” and “women are naturally that” and “nobody is willing to buck the current of evolution unless you pay them” twaddle. But that the disparity does exist, I have no doubt. And it creates demand of the sort this page of resources for finding a mistress or dominatrix is designed to help satisfy:
For your interest, the striking (ha!) woman in red at the top of the page is Susan Wayland, and the photo was taken by Milosh Obilic. Wayland’s official gallery features her in several other stunning fetishwear outfits.
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Um, er, uh… This page sure looks an awful lot like it’s owned by a certain omnipresent corporation which owns an awfully big adult “dating” footprint on the Web. Although the page itself doesn’t give any clues (including the Privacy Policy) the number of links pointing to many of the corp.’s sites DO. I’m not necessarily criticizing. I’m just sayin’…
Sparky, please allow me to gently call your attention to the “sponsored post” banner displayed at the bottom of the post.
Easy answer. The majority of positions of power are currently held by men. Your experience of dominant-seeking women implies that there should be a generally equal distribution amongst the dominant man/submissive man and dominant women/submissive woman groups. But because so many men are in positions of power, a large number of them (at some level) don’t want to be, or perhaps don’t want to have That much power. So they seek to balance the equation in their personal lives.
I’m going to be lazy and ascribe the lack of dominant women to cultural mores.
This makes some kind of sense to me atm, but I’m pretty tired, so…
It would be interesting to see if the number of dominant-seeking men goes down as more women enter higher positions, but that’s happening pretty slowly and it’s going to be hard to measure reliably anyway.
Best theory I’ve ever heard was from Bitchy Jones, who I miss so, so much. Basically, the idea is that most submissive men aren’t very good at making female dominance sound like fun for the woman involved. I imagine a woman who leans dominant listening to a potential sub making a pitch. “Oh, I get to laugh at the size of your penis? And then I forbid you to touch me because you’re not worthy? So we don’t even fuck? Mmmm, what do you mean, I get my pussy “worshiped”? I see. So it’s like oral sex, but I get to be completely objectified in the process. Sounds like fun.”
I understand that people will like what they like, and they can’t change that. But I imagine that submissive men would attract a lot more women if they could make a little more room in their fantasies for the women to actually have orgasms and such.
I miss Bitchy Jones too. Amazingly her blog is still up even though she hasn’t posted since 2010.